Through my play therapy training, I’ve been learning how to create a safe, relational space where children can process their inner world through play. It has felt like something of a magical journey, and I’m deeply grateful to our Trustees for making it possible. Along the way, the “rescuer” in me has been gently challenged. I’m learning to lean into a therapeutic approach that allows children the time and space to work things through for themselves, resisting the urge to rush in, to fix, or to assume I know what’s needed. It’s a different kind of presence. One that trusts the process. One that honours the child. It’s been a privilege to witness children beginning to show up as their true selves.
This week, I heard someone reflect on the Hebrew word for “wait” (qavah), used in the Bible to describe Simeon and Anna waiting for the Messiah. They described it as being like a rope being woven – twisting, binding, actively hoping and expecting, creating strength over time. That image has stayed with me.
It feels so closely connected to what happens in the playroom: a space where time is given, where nothing is forced, where something strong and hopeful is quietly being formed. It has also reflected how I think about God’s presence with us. He journeys alongside us. He’s patient, attentive, and near – very near. Perhaps, as He waits for us to grow into our true selves, He is also giving us the very time and space that strengthens us, deepens our hope, and prepares us for what is to come.
For those of us working with young people, there is always a tension here. We want the best for them, and that desire can easily lead us into rescuing or trying to fix things. But I’m learning that this is not always what helps most. Often, we assume we know what’s wrong, or what needs to change. In our Know Your Place research project, it was difficult to hear how many young people feel unseen and unheard by the adults around them.
So perhaps the challenge for us all is this: when do we take time to simply be with the young people in our lives, because we want to, not because we need to? With no agenda, no judgement, no outcome in mind. As a parent, I know how difficult that can be. But if I could go back in time, this is what I would do differently.
It’s what I’m continuing to learn now, and what we’re seeking to grow in our relationships with children and young people here in Burton Youth For Christ. Who knows what strength and hope might be woven through the time and presence we choose to give? It is costly, but I truly believe it is worth it.
Thank you for your continued support
Sue Garb
Centre Director